"Chivalry is not dead, you just have to leave the United States to find it" - Melanie Angus Aiken
Now I am not talking about the men who push women on the trains to beat them to a seat or the ones who fall asleep instantly upon seeing a pregnant woman, even though that clearly proves my point. I was talking to my sister Melanie about her trip to Paris and Europe in general. She relayed a story of a guy flirting with her before boarding her flight from Atlanta to New York. She saw him again on the plane as she struggled to get her hand luggage into the overhead compartment. He did not offer to help her. In contrast, on her flight from New York to London, she repeated the same task and before she could get the bag off the floor, a British guy helped her with her bag. Coincidence? No, norm ;) Her next statement is what inspired this post, "Chivalry is not dead, you just have to leave the United States to find it"
I'm torn because I could easily argue both sides. Now to be fair to men (especially since I know some really good gentlemen who are not only nice to me, pregnant people and seniors but to random strangers with no ulterior motive), two things could be at play - women killed it
There are some women who are so keen on feminism that they would be offended if a man tried to help as they challenge "do you think that I cant do it myself?" Since this type of personality is not always often easily detectable, men may try to avoid the confrontation or embarrassment by being blind to the situation.
There is not a clear line between what will be considered sexism or a "man's role". Even the most traditional woman who wants doors to be opened could make the claim "I will pay the bill."
If an act of kindness is warmly received, repitition draweth nigh! Criticism or ingratitude is the bane of kindness. So don't expect chivalry if you constantly knock it down.