Worry is wasted mental energy!
Situation: I wanted something to happen but I had no control over it. I provided all the tools and information necessary to make it happen and then I left it alone. Of course, if said thing didn't happen, I would be disappointed, but if it happened, then I would have wasted time worrying that it was not going to happen; and if it didn't happen, I started being disappointed too early ~ more wasted time!
After considering this, I sent an e-mail to Linda who was considering a similar situation
Title: Moments of Clarity
I don’t believe in being very forceful, I think that’s very unattractive. I don’t believe in being secretive and expecting people to read my mind, I think that’s very immature. What I do believe in is a balance. I present my feelings, expectations to people very openly, I provide all the information necessary to execute and from there I allow nature to take its course. I do not worry because that doesn't change anything (except of course your life expectancy rate ~ a decrease)
While this was not a revelation (I always knew that worrying was pointless), it certainly changed my perspective and now I just do what I need to do and say "c'est la vie, what is meant to be will be."
By the way ~ this particular situation worked out better than I could have planned it!