He's just not that into you...

So I browsed the contents of that little pink book - "He's just not that into you." I haven't read the book or seen the movie but it does not leave for lots of guesswork - I will address a few of the titles because I am so tired of seeing women pine over men saying "I just don't understand why he did/didn't..." The reason is simple "He's just not that into you." This does not have any reflection on you, this does not make you any less fabulous or amazing but at that very moment he is not as interested as you want him to be and that's ok.

He's not that into you if he's not calling you or if he's not dating you or he's dating someone else!
"He's busy". "He's working late". Whatever the reason is, the bottom line is that he's not calling you. He is not e-mailing you and he is not sending you text messages. It may not be a text, but the message is clear - that he is just not that into you. If he were interested in you, you would know and he would be calling you. Besides, who wants a guy who only calls in his free time. Don't you feel more special on a day when a guy sends you a message to let you know that he is swamped but he's thinking about you?



He's not that into you if he doesn't want to marry you
Commitment Issues
I don't care how you want to spin it, a man that has dated you for seven years does NOT have commitment issues. He has commited to you for all that time, he wants to live with you, wants to do everything that a married couple should do but he still doesn't want to marry you? Sweetie, face it- you are an experiment, he is just stringing you along until he finds the person he really wants to marry. He's just not that into you.

It's just a piece of paper
Then there is the "it's like we are already married, it's just a piece of paper" - then if the marriage license is just a piece of paper, he should give it to you because you want it! He's just not that into you.

He has trust issues
Well if he does, you shouldn't want him anyway! Why should you pay for the mistakes of someone else? Allow him to become whole and stop being his emotional punching bag! He's just not that into you.

He's not that into you if he's disappeared on you

Ladies, you do not need a magician, you want a man who is whole and knows what he wants. If all of a sudden, he fell off the planet, it's time for you to get a reality check and realize that he's just not that into you.

He's not that into you if he's married

What an insult! If he thinks you should be satisfied with sharing him and doesn't think that you are worth having your own man, then he is just selfish and he's just not that into you. You are not a homewrecker, it's too bad you met him after he already commited but that does not change the fact that he is. Besides, if he is willing to disrespect his wife for you, what makes you think he won't do it to you if you two were married?

Let's take it back to the beginning - when Adam and Eve were placed in the Garden, they developed a relationship with each other. They did not waste their time trying to make it work with the animals. There is not one account that states that Eve tried making a relationship with the lions and bears- you keep getting scratched up by the lions and trampled on by the bears and elephants. They were not trying to make it work with the snakes, wolves or the giraffe. Do the same. Give it a rest. Make yourself whole, enjoy your life, live life to the fullest and don't settle for the pigs or the dogs.